I Thought I Was The Perfect Parent…

What on earth do you do with a child that refuses to put their pants on when it is -6 degrees Celsius before going outside? Or that wants to wear their Wiggles pyjamas to day-care… EVERY DAY of the week?

What do you do with strong-minded little “monsters”, who have incredibly strong wills and can be very stubborn? I have asked myself that question every day in the last week. My youngest “angel” Stina, who is almost 2  has decided that if she doesn’t get her way she’ll scream her way to it. And I thought I was the perfect parent, that I would never have problems like this, ever! Well, I was wrong…

You may have noticed from my previous posts that  I am a strong believer in the Law of Attraction. And what does LOA say? “You can do, be and have ANYTHING…”
Let me tell you… Our kids are right there with it. They practice it every day and they are doing it every day without us having to do ANYTHING. There is just one little thing here… What if WE (us parents that is) don’t want them to do what they want to do? Is this where it all goes wrong? Is this where all the re-programming starts? Is this where us parents start telling our dear little ones that they can’t do, be or have just anything?

Well, I had a chat with my dear partner in crime Satu and she had some wise words to share with me:

“I think you have to find her an appropriate reason to do what you know is best for her… as an adult you of course know more and can help her to find the “right” reason… or to discover the true reasons together … that’s something I do with my daughter Kristina. I keep telling her that she can do it some other day or some other moment… she’s usually happy with that, but she needs to hear that she *can* do it … the moment doesn’t matter so much.”

I loved to hear that and it has helped me immensely. Of course it is hard to reason with a two-year-old (like my Stina) but at least I have then done my best and not told her she can’t. It feels like things are working out well and my little “monster” has turned in to a princess once again.

“You can do, be and have ANYTHING…”

Do you have a ‘strong-willed’ child like mine? Do you have any ‘persuasion’ methods that work well with your kids? Leave your comments below, I would love to hear them.

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